Wednesday, June 20, 2007

Acckkk! Unforeseen Consequences. . .

OK, I knew that going back to Guangxi meant there would be tons of questions from Zoe especially – about her birthparents, about her finding place, about the orphanage, about adoption. And sure enough we’ve had those (last night she asked if she was buried in the ground at her finding place, and I was able to reassure her that she was just on top of the ground. Thank goodness she asked – who knew she was worrying about that). But I didn’t expect it to spur the where-do-babies-come-from talk!

I’m not even sure how it happened – we were talking about how she might have gotten to her finding place and she suddenly asked, “How do babies get in the birthmother’s tummy?” And my answer, “They grow there,” just wasn’t going to cut it this time!

Yet another child-rearing moment when I wanted to say, “Wait a minute – let me do a little research on how best to explain it to you. Can you wait a few weeks?!” But they never can wait, can they? So we had to do the whole seed-egg, insert Tab A into Slot B thing, and then she wants to know how Aunt Kim and Uncle Phillip and I got in Mimi’s tummy. Ewwwwww, I really don’t want to think about that! It doesn’t seem to matter how old you are, you still don’t want to think of your parents having S-E-X!

Anyway, we both got through this rite of passage, and I was feeling pretty pleased with myself. All her questions were answered, and I figured I wouldn’t have to go through THAT again for a while! And then on the way to school this morning she starts again, “Does it hurt when the man does that to the lady to make a baby?” Sigh. Here we go again.


Wendy said...

I know what you mean, I would love to hit the pause button, run to research a bit, and then return to the conversation. Oh well.
It sounds like you did great with your answers on the spot! Thanks for sharing your adventure!

Anonymous said...

Ah yes, the dreaded moment! I'll warn you that just explaining it once isn't enough. Our oldest (now 10) has inquired about once a year since he was 5. . . he blocks it out of his mind or forgets - whatever he does, I've had to go over it many times. Our daughter will ask, then as we start to explain, she announces that it is gross and doesn't want to hear any more.

Vonna, on the farm (which helps!) in Kansas

AmericanFamily said...

If the questions keep coming, you may want to look into the Robie Harris kids' sex books. My daughter is really enjoying "It's not the stork" right now and she is about 4.5 years old. There are also two others for older kids.

mimifrancoise said...

Ah the dreaded question....always when you feel unprepared. Zoe will have more questions on the subject...that you can be sure. It is strange how none of us want to acknowledge that our parents have sex!
I am so glad that she asked the question about being buried in her finding place. Poor child would have worried a long time if she had not asked.